Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Schools, students, and "Reform"

I just read an article on ajc.com that includes a letter written by a public school administrator. Here is a link if you want to read the whole thing, but the gist of it is that a young man has participated in a High School graduation ceremony, but has not actually graduated for the simple reason that he has not passed his exit exams. (He still needs to pass the Math, Science, and Social Studies tests.)


The letter writer goes to great lengths to point fingers at all of the adults that have failed this young man, including himself.


What strikes me about this letter is that is is based on the premise that if a child fails, it must be the school’s fault. While he does acknowledge that the child bears part of the blame, it is overwhelmed by the failings of all of the adults involved in this.


My thoughts on the matter:


1. If a student is able to pass all of his classes and then fail a majority of his exit exams, then something is wrong, either with the classes or with the exams.


One of the changes that I have seen in schools since I graduated back in 1988 is an increased emphasis on the results of standardized tests. However, a bigger change is the way in which teachers assign grades.


When I was in school, there were very few kids that made all A’s. When I became a teacher, that had changed considerably. The reason is not that kids are doing better work in the classroom. Rather, the change has been the way too many teachers scale their grades.


I remember when I was teaching in a public school, and the question came up, “If you have an average level student who does average level work over the course of a grading period, what kind of grade should he or she get?” The textbook answer to this question is somewhere between a C and a C+.


However, when I asked the question over the lunch table one day, the almost unanimous answer was “B.” I remember thinking that if this was the case, then a student could get their name in the paper for the "A &B Honor Roll" with all B-'s, that meant that kids were getting their names in the paper for doing below average work. I realized that, at least to a degree, the complaints about grade inflation were justified.


I don’t really blame the teachers for this, at least not completely. Every teacher has had parents complain about low grades on tests and report cards, and after a while it is simply easier to adjust your grading scale, and let the whole matter drop.


Nor do I blame the administrators. While I was blessed to work for a principal that I knew would back me up, I know of others that were not so fortunate. (For a very lengthy example, click here.) However, these administrators ultimately answer to the school board, who are elected by these same angry parents.


The problem is not the teachers, nor was it the administrators. The problem is the parents who have somehow come to the conclusion that what appears on a test or report card is the responsibility of the teacher, and not the student. How many parents have told teachers, “My kid worked really hard this term and therefore they deserve an A!”


Funny thing is, every parent out there just knows that their kid works really, really hard, causes no problems in the classroom, and diligently does their homework every single night.


If we are going to “fix” the education system in this country, we need to start with parents that expect their kids to earn good grades by learning the material and actually doing well on tests and assignments.


As long as the teacher has given all of the material out that will be tested on, as long as they grade the tests and assignments the same for every student, as long as the requirements for the class in question are made clear, as long as the teacher has been competent in teaching the material to the students, then the parents have no room for complaints.


(By the way, if the vast majority of the kids in the class passed the test, then the teacher was probably not incompetent in teaching the material.)


2. This 18 year old kid (I am assuming his age) has already had three (3) kids!


Here is another problem: out of wedlock births. A few years ago, when my wife and I were in the hospital for the birth of one of our children, we were paid a visit from the woman who handled all of the birth certificate paperwork. She said something that has stuck out in my mind all these years. She said, “You two are married? Great! Most of the applications I have sitting on my desk are from single mothers.” (Emphasis mine.)


This kid has not even graduated from High School, and he is a father, not once, not twice, but three times! What really makes my blood boil is that the letter writer attaches no special significance to this.


(I will let you insert your own joke here about how we know what this kid was doing when he should have been studying.)


The fact that this young man is still in school tells me that he is probably not working, which means that he is not supporting these kids, at least not yet.


The fact that he is sitting down to dinner with his mother along with his (I am assuming) current girlfriend, tells me that there is a level of acceptance (though not necessarily endorsement) of having children out of wedlock.


I’m not sure what to make of the fact that his girlfriend got with him despite the existence of two other girls who were left high and dry.


This kind of ties into my next thought:


3. The writer seems to imply that the coach is partially at fault for luring him away from a supportive school environment into one that was less supportive for the sole purpose of winning a championship in a sport.


Another thing that has changed over the years concerns High School and College sports. There has always been what has seemed to many to be an overemphasis on the sports programs in our schools.


To a degree, this concern has been justified: kids are on occasion passed along to make sure that they are eligible for the next season, with no regard for the long term consequences for that student.


However, people need to remember that the bulk of the money for these sports programs come not from school budgets, but from ticket sales. I remember when I was in High School and hearing that the teachers had been asked to cut back on the copies that they made on the school copiers. Meanwhile, we were hearing the sounds of a new press box being constructed next to the football field.


I commented to my English teacher on the irony, and she acknowledged the inconsistency, but pointed out that the money was coming from two different places. Based on what I later learned, I reasoned that the money was coming form the several hundred people who paid $5 every week to attend football games every fall.


Given that the bulk of the money for sports programs come from ticket sales, a certain degree of marketing is to be expected. The issue that I take with how we view sports programs these days is not the emphasis that they are given, but rather how they are emphasized.


Sports programs definitely have a role in our schools. At the college level, it allows at least some students the chance to go to school without racking up a heavy load of debt from student loans, plus at many of your bigger schools where the Athletic department makes a major profit, it allows all of the students, not just the athletes, to attend a quality school for less money than they would have otherwise expected to pay.


The problem is the current emphasis on winning to the exclusion of all else.


Sports programs are supposed to be all about character development: playing as part of a team, taking responsibility for your actions, and so forth. My father played on the football team when he was in school and I know his High School coach had a tremendous impact on his development as a person.


Thinking back to the original letter, I can’t help but wondering what, if anything, did that coach do when this student got one girl pregnant, then another, and yet then another. At what point did the coach call this young man into his office and explain just how badly he was messing up? Why, after baby number 2, was he not kicked off the team as an example to the rest of the guys?


Again, you can’t completely blame the coach: too many parents just want a state championship, and nothing else matters. Communities in general and parents in particular need to stop worrying about win - loss records, and more about what kind of impact the program in question is having on their son or daughter in terms of character development.


4. This article left me asking the question, “ At what point do we start holding the students and the parents responsible for doing their part in school?”


Looking at this letter, the writer goes on and on about how the system has failed this student. To a degree, there may be some truth to that. However, it is even more true that this student and his parents have let the system down. (By the way, where was the kid’s father in all of this?)


If we are going to have the educational system that this country needs, then we need to start in the homes:


Parents have the obligation to instill a sense that getting an education is important.


  • You do this by making sure that your son or daughter is at school on time everyday that they are not sick and not pulling them out of school just to take a vacation.
  • You can do this by making sure that they do their homework everyday.
  • You can do this by communicating with the teacher when concerns come up.
  • You can do this by expecting your son or daughter to follow the rules in school, even the ones that you think might be unreasonable.

Students have an obligation to do their best in every class.


  • You can do this by making your classwork a priority every single day.
  • You can do this by letting the teacher know when you are having problems.
  • You can do this by preparing for test and turning in assignments on time, every time.

(I know some of my former teachers are aware of the irony me writing this.)


Until students and parents (believe it or not, teenagers listen to their parents more than they are given credit for) start pulling their weight and holding up their responsibilities, all of the school reform on the planet will not make a bit of difference.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Being a Pastor, part 2 (My Epiphany)

I remember when I came into my first church, I was told, "In this church, the Deacons are the leaders, not the Pastor. The Pastor is to preach and visit shut-ins and leave the decision making to the Deacons and the Committees."

I suspect that this same conversation has been held with a lot of young pastors over the years. I attended a Minister's Conference several years ago where the leader explained that in a typical small church the job of the Pastor is to preach, visit, pray, visit, do funerals, visit, perform weddings, and visit.

Don't get me wrong, any Pastor worth his salt is going to spend at least some of his time out visiting. I remember when I was in a Hospital making a visit and I ran into Dr. David Uth (at the time, he was the Pastor of a congregation that was running more than two thousand every Sunday). I remember thinking then that if a Pastor with his responsibilities could find time to go to the hospital to visit, then anyone could.

I also remember when I was in High School, and my grandfather passed away. My grandfather had been heavily involved in our church for decades, and yet when he died, the Pastor never came out and visited with my grandmother once, not one single time. My parents were upset, to put it mildly.

One of the basic qualities of a good Pastor is that he loves his people. Dr. Uth went to the hospital because someone he cared about was sick. When the Pastor never came to my grandmother's house, people wondered (reasonably) if he really cared. (In his defense, I believe that the Pastor did care about his people in general and about my grandmother in particular. He simply was not very comfortable working with people one on one. This proved to be a hinderance to his ministry.)

The problem is that after a while if visiting is all you do, being a Pastor comes to resemble the game "fetch," where the Pastor runs back and forth and everyone looks on with admiration. He never really accomplishes anything, but because he stays busy everyone assumes that he is doing a good job as Pastor.

For years, I played that game. I measured my success as a Pastor by how many miles I put on my truck for that particular month. However, after a while I began to wonder what the whole point was.

Then I had my epiphany.

A couple of years ago, I had the opportunity to sit in on a conversation involving a young lady in our church that was feeling led to lead our Youth Ministry. I had arranged for the two of us to meet with a friend of mine, Eric Ball, who has trained and equipped Youth Ministers for a number of years.

As the two were talking, Eric was explaining how Jesus had spent most of his time equipping twelve men for ministry. Yes, he ministered to the sick and the dying. Yes, he performed miracles that even his opponents could not deny. However, the bulk of his time was spent working with the 12 disciples, twenty four hours a day, for about three years.

Eric went on to explain how Jesus was a mentor to those men, and that as a Youth Minister, this young lady needed to be a mentor to the youth. He encouraged her to start working with the two or three that we had, start with them, and allow the ministry to grow naturally.

When Eric used the word "Mentor," a light bulb went off in my head. I realized right then and there that I had been going in the wrong direction for years. For far too long I had tried to be the kind of Pastor that everyone else wanted me to be and for some strange reason, it just wasn't working.

When Eric was explaining about how to mentor someone, I realized that this was what a Pastor is supposed to be in a church. Not just a teacher, not just a preacher, not just a shut-in visitor, but a mentor. All of a sudden, my life got a whole lot easier.

I realized that it is not my job to do whatever needs to be done around the church, but rather to help others learn to do whatever needs to be done around the church. I realized that my job is not to grow the church, but to help grow people.

As soon as that sunk in, I reevaluated my entire approach to being a Pastor. Right then, I started looking at all of the different ministries in the church, and I asked myself two questions: 1) who is the leader of that ministry, and 2) what can I do to help them learn how carry out their ministry?

As I did this, Ministry got a LOT easier and, frankly, all of a sudden it was fun (not a word you usually hear about being a Pastor).

I began to start meeting one on one with the various leaders of our programs. I shared with them the vision that God was giving to me for the church and we discussed how their ministry could be a part of this. Once I did that, I was able to step back from a lot of the things that were really stressing me out, and I immediately became more comfortable with my role in the church.

Does this mean that I don't make any decisions any more? No. I still make decisions, but they are more about the overall direction of the church. Do I step back completely from the different programs and ministries? No. One of my goals for this year is to meet one on one with each ministry leader at least once a quarter just to review what has been going on and where things need to go from there. Also, I keep an eye on what's going on week to week, but I try to avoid stepping in unless I absolutely have to.

My wife has noticed that since I started doing this I am a much happier person. I look forward to each new day more than I did before, and while I had considered leaving the ministry several years ago, I am more content than ever at being a Pastor.